“Busted flat in Baton Rouge, headin' for the train, feelin'nearly faded as my jeans…”

Kris Kristofferson wrote those lyrics and told a near complete story in just a few well written words. Nearly my whole life, I have looked to music and poetry to assist in understanding my place in this world. Within these pages, I would like to share some of those thoughts with you the reader, in hopes of perhaps bringing a little freedom in understanding to your own story.



Wednesday, November 8, 2017

The Goodbye Letter.


          We met one another my freshman year of college.  In the naiveté of youth, I thought that you were everything I had been looking for.  You made me feel like no one had before; more mature, a little dangerous, independent, yet still warm and comforted.  I was vulnerable and innocent, and you knew that, you saw that in me somehow and purposefully led me astray, making me believe all the lies you told me night after night.

          Every time I caught a glimpse of your true self, I would pull away, crushed by my own insecurities.  When I would finally move beyond your pull, you would return like a lover in the night, as though somehow, this one time, things would be different.  You would make me fall all over again, head over heels, for that sweet thing I first met under a July moon, with the small of summer heavy on the night air. 

          It makes me sad even now, how much love I have wasted on you and the memories we once shared, or more accurately I guess, the lack of memories.  I could say I wished I’d never met you, but it would taste like a lie.  The truth is, I’m glad we had our time together.  I think sometimes we need to go through hell, in order to appreciate heaven.  You taught me about pain, hurt, loneliness, and betrayal.  Because of those hard lessons, I now truly understand what it means to hope, to have faith, and to love.

          Please make no mistake, my gratitude ends abruptly there.  You are a temptress and a Jessabelle, and I have no time, energy, or patience left to pursue you further.

          This goodbye is not an exercise in simply delaying the inevitable.  It is a declaration of a new found will to live.  You are not welcome in this life I am building for myself and for my family.  You are not welcome in my thoughts, or in what I hold to be my fondest of memories.  You are not welcome as a guest in my dreams.

          If my experience has taught me anything over our years together, it’s that you will not take this well.  You never did like to be told no.  Inevitably, at some point sooner or later, you will extend an olive branch,, in hopes of once again being friendly, if only casually or for old times’ sake.  I accept this as it is your nature, and you have always held some power over me, that even now I do not fully understand.  You must realize my dear that this is a battle you will not win.  I am no longer that insecure boy who ran too you time and again, in hopes of finding comfort in your deceptive warm embrace.  I have been without you long enough that I no longer taste your harsh kiss or your sweet perfume.  If for whatever reason I should begin to remember, know that I am no longer alone.  I have friends, family and fellowship, more than ready to put you and your whispers back in the ground where they belong, dead to us. 

          And so, I leave you with words from that first dance years ago, “while the last goodbye is the hardest one to say, this IS where the cowboy rides away.”

      
Goodbye,
                   -J

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